This series of blogs is designed to complement two sermon series: The More You’ve Never Seen Before and The Bucket Project. The purpose of these “discipleship” blogs is to give you the information you need about being discipled and being a discipler. Since these blogs are intended to be a resource, they’re a modified version of my teaching notes on this subject throughout the years.
Defining the Expectations of Discipleship
1st meeting with a disciple: Connect Relationally and Define the Goals
- What’s your life story?
- Tell me about your family.
- Where did you grow up?
- Where did you go to school?
- Where do you work?
- What are your hobbies?
- What’s your faith story?
- What was your life like before Christ?
- How did you come to faith in Christ?
- How have you grown since you trusted Christ?
- What do you dream about?
- What were your goals last year?
- What are your goals this year?
- Why do you want to be discipled?
- What are your goals for this mentoring relationship?
- What would make this mentoring experience successful?
Define the Goals
- What do you want most from discipleship?
• What improvements do you want to see in 3 months?
• What improvements do you want to see in 6 months?
• What improvements do you want to see in 9 months?
• What does the transition from mentee to mentor look like?
- What is your commitment to church partnership?
- What is your commitment to spiritual disciplines?
- What are your strengths and weaknesses?
- Are you willing to work harder at this than me?
Define the Logistics
- Will we meet weekly or bi-weekly?
- Will we meet for 1 hour, 1 ½ hours, or 2 hours?
- Where will we meet?
- Who’s responsible for the details?
- Set evaluation dates: 1, 3, 6, 9, 12 months
• 9 months “Being Mentored” // 9 months “Mentoring Others”
Define the Meetings
- Begin the meeting by catching up on the events of the previous week.
- Small talk is necessary to build a relationship.
- Listen carefully for the voice of the Holy Spirit.
- Transition to discipleship by asking thought-provoking and challenging questions.
- What did God say to you this week?
- Not how many times did you have your priority time.
- How did you apply what God said?
- Revelation demands a response.
- How have you loved well this week?
- Great Commandment: Love God, Love People
- New Commandment: Love one another
- Golden Rule: Treat others as you want to be treated
- What is God convicting you about?
- There is no growth apart from confession and repentance.
- Discipleship must be the safest place to talk about the hardest and most challenging issues.
- How are you personally and specifically making disciples?
- How are you using your strengths and gifts?
- How are you improving your strengths and gifts?
- What are you dreaming about?
- Who inspires you? What inspires you?
- Be Sensitive to the direction of the Holy Spirit.
- Be sensitive to past issues. // Be sensitive to personal issues.
- Be sensitive to marriage issues. // Be sensitive to family issues.
- Be sensitive to professional issues. // Be sensitive to church issues.
- Be sensitive to big decisions.
The success of the discipleship meeting isn’t determined by how much you progress through a curriculum; it’s determined by the needs that were met in alignment with the goals of loving God, loving people, and making disciples.
- Email, Tweet, Facebook your disciples regularly.
- Write your disciples occasionally.
- Call your disciples periodically.
- Give gifts during low times and high times.
- Be an encourager.
- Take trips together: Fun, Conference, Retreats, Mission.
- Schedule social times together individually and with family and friends.
Biblical Examples and Expressions of Discipleship
As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another.
1 Thessalonians 2:7-8
But we proved to be gentle among you, as a nursing mother tenderly cares for her own children. Having so fond an affection for you, we were well-pleased to impart to you not only the gospel of God but also our own lives, because you had become very dear to us.
We proclaim Him, admonishing every man and teaching every man with all wisdom, so that we may present every man complete in Christ. For this purpose also I labor, striving according to His power, which mightily works within me.
2 Timothy 2:2
The things which you have heard from me in the presence of many witnesses, entrust these to faithful men who will be able to teach others also.
What are my next steps today?
- Get in a group.
- Subscribe to Love Works with Chris and Karin Conlee and listen to our seven podcasts on mentoring.
- Buy four copies of Priority Time and go through it together with three friends.
Come back next week to learn about the top 10 responsibilities of a discipler…