I often think we have things slightly wrong when it comes to discipleship. We place so much emphasis on setting aside time to meet with our disciplee… to sit with them and work through a curriculum… to ask about their priority time and set expectations for the next time we meet.

Now, don’t get me wrong… all of the above is important and plays a vital role in discipleship. But there’s more to it than reviewing what happened since you last met and previewing what will happen before you next meet. When most of us think about discipleship, we think about academic learning, but it’s really more about life-on-life learning. It’s a relational experience first; and a learning experience second.

Discipleship is a relational experience first; and a learning experience second. Click To Tweet

Have you disqualified yourself from discipling someone because you don’t think you’re clever enough? … because your relationship with God isn’t deep enough? … because you haven’t been a Christian long enough?

We have more access to knowledge than ever before, yet less access to people than ever before. Let’s flip that on its head!

Ever thought about sharing life with someone who’s just a step or so behind you in their walk with God? What about having that person over to your house for family dinner? … or taking them into work to meet your colleagues and see what life looks like Monday-Friday? … or bringing them to a ball game or a gig or shopping? How about including them in a DIY project at your house, or inviting them to serve with you at someone else’s?

Let them see how you respond and interact in everyday situations, whether life-giving or life-sucking. It’s not rocket science. It’s you being like Jesus and you leading someone else to be like Jesus. Discipleship is both caught and taught, but it’s mostly caught.

Discipleship. Are you relying on others to step up so you don’t have to? Click To Tweet

Does that scare you? Are you mentally calculating what it will cost you in time, effort and planning? Are you relying on others to step up so you don’t have to? Remember: It’s costly and inconvenient to follow Jesus. Peter, James and John left everything to follow Him.

I challenge you to embrace the cost and warmly welcome the inconvenience. You can never over estimate the impact your time and life experiences will have on someone else… who will go on to share life with someone else… who will go on to share life with someone else… who will go on… You get the picture!


If you’re interested in discipling someone at Highpoint, email Amber Ramsey.


If you missed the message on Sunday, you can watch it here… or listen to the podcast here.