This series of blogs is designed to complement two sermon series: The More You’ve Never Seen Before and The Bucket Project. The purpose of these “discipleship” blogs is to give you the information you need about being discipled and being a discipler. Since these blogs are intended to be a resource, they’re a modified version of my teaching notes on this subject throughout the years.
What are the top four characteristics of a discipleship relationship?
1. You must build your relationship on modeling.
You need to model faithfulness in your walk with God.
- Priority Time: Addicted to God’s Word
- Partnership: Worship > Connect > Serve > Give
You need to model faithfulness in your relationships, marriage, family life, and professional life.
2. You must build your relationship on love.
Build trust into your relationship, too.
- Trust is a combination of character and competency.
Build reproof, rebuke, and exhortation in your relationship with complete patience and teaching. (2 Timothy 4:1-2)
- Build forgiveness and encouragement into your relationship.
- Build healthy confrontation and accountability in your relationship.
3. You must build your relationship on truth.
Teach people how to have a priority time.
- Book: My Priority Time: Addicted to God’s Word
- 2014 Teaching Series: My Priority Time: Addicted to God’s Word
Teach people how to study the Word of God.
- Living by the Book by Howard Hendricks
- Personal Bible Study Methods by Rick Warren
Teach people how to teach the Word of God.
- Teaching to Change Lives by Howard Hendricks
- 7 Laws of the Learner by Bruce Wilkinson
Teach the doctrines of the Word of God.
- M28—Spring 2011 / The Doctrines of the Faith
- M28—Fall 2011 / The Doctrine of the Holy Spirit
4. You must build your relationship on partnership in God’s mission through the local church.
Worship is responding to God with awe (fear), honor (bow down), and service (serve).
- My priority – Stand in awe of God
- My posture – Bow down to honor God
- My practice – Rise up to serve God
Worship is never a matter of conforming to formal requirements.
- It must have head and heart.
- It must have reflection and affection.
- It must have truth and spirit.
Worship is not the outcome of moderate feelings; it is the outcome of passionate feelings.
Friendships inspire faithfulness or faithlessness.
- Friendships make you or break you.
- Friendships help determine the direction and quality of your life.
- You need friends who will encourage one another day after day. (Hebrews 3:12-14)
- You need friends who will stimulate one another to love and good deeds. (Hebrews 10:24-25)
- You need friends who will restore one another in a spirit of gentleness. (Galatians 6:1)
- You need friends who will bear one another’s burdens. (Galatians 6:2)
- You need friends who will live for one another’s progress and joy in the faith. (Philippians1:23-25)
Servants live for the glory of God and the good of people.
- Serving is a privilege instead of requirement.
- Serving is a joy instead of a burden.
- Serving is an opportunity, not a responsibility.
Are you serving in the church?
- Start small.
- Be faithful with a few.
- Be ready for more!
Put God first. (Exodus13:1-2)
- Jesus was God’s firstborn.
- Jesus was God’s firstfruits offering.
- Jesus was God’s tithe.
The first belongs to God.
- The Test of Trust is the tithe. (Malachi 3:8-10)
- The tithe is consecrated or cursed. (Proverbs 3:9-10)
- When your faith intersects with God’s faithfulness, big things happen.
- When you do what you can do, God does what you can’t do.
How should we give? (2 Corinthians 9:6-7)
- Thoughtfully: “Each one must do just as he has purposed in his heart…”
- Enthusiastically: “not grudgingly…”
- Voluntarily: “or under compulsion…”
- Cheerfully: “for God loves a cheerful giver.”
- Prayerful giving is pure giving.
- Planned giving is pure giving.
- Priority giving is pure giving.
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What are my next steps today?
- Get in a group.
- Subscribe to Love Works with Chris and Karin Conlee and listen to our seven podcasts on mentoring.
- Buy four copies of Priority Time and go through it together with three friends.
Come back next week to learn why you need a discipler and how to find one…