This series of blogs is designed to complement two sermon series: The More You’ve Never Seen Before and The Bucket Project. The purpose of these “discipleship” blogs is to give you the information you need about being discipled and being a discipler. Since these blogs are intended to be a resource, they’re a modified version of my teaching notes on this subject throughout the years.
Why do I need a discipler?
“Show me a man’s closest companions and I can make a fairly accurate guess
as to what sort of man he is, as well as what sort of man he is likely to become.”
(Howard and William Hendricks)
1. A discipler focuses on strategic growth.
- Spiritually, Relationally, Professionally
- Character, Competency, Chemistry, Culture, Capacity
2. A discipler provides a model to follow.
- God always uses a person to make Christ personal.
- John 14:8-9 // 1 Corinthians 11:1 // Hebrews 13:7
3. A true discipler always creates a discipler.
- Barnabas > Paul > Timothy (2 Timothy 2:2)
- Coaches probably model this better than any other profession today.
How do I recognize a discipler?
1. A discipler has what you need.
- Analyze your life in the following five areas to determine where you need help:
i. My God
ii. My Family
iii. My Health
iv. My Leadership/Career
v. My Friends
- Now look for people who are strong where you are weak. You can’t impart what you don’t possess.
2. A discipler builds relationships.
- A discipler must be willing to give of themself to another person.
- A discipler is someone who is committed to your growth, and to helping you realize your life goals.
- Acts 16:1-3 // 1 Corinthians 4:17 // 1 Timothy 1:2 // 1 Timothy 1:18-19
3. A discipler is willing to invest in you.
- A discipler is someone who is willing to put themself on the line to help you become the person God created you to be. Investments always involve a measure of risk.
- Acts 12:25 // Acts 15:37-39 // 2 Timothy 4:9-11
4. A discipler is able to diagnose your needs.
- All of us have blind spots. Therefore, we need disciplers/mentors who can identify our weaknesses and help us address them. It’s almost always easier for someone not involved to see the solution to the problem.
- A good discipler knows when to use a Band-Aid and when to use a scalpel.
(See Moses and Jethro in Exodus 18:13-23.)
5. A discipler prioritizes your success.
- A discipler is someone whose greatest joy is to see you succeed. If you succeed, he succeeds; if you fail, he’s there to pick you up, dust you off, and get you back on your horse.
- 1 Thessalonians 2:19-20 // 1 Thessalonians 3:8-10 // Philippians 4:1
Please know that you’ll never find the perfect discipler. The purpose of this post isn’t to disqualify as many people as possible, but rather to urge you to aim high. Having said that, it’s important to note that any level of discipleship is better than no discipleship at all.Investments always involve a measure of risk. Click To Tweet
What are my next steps today?
- Get in a group.
- Subscribe to Love Works with Chris and Karin Conlee and listen to our seven podcasts on mentoring.
- Buy four copies of Priority Time and go through it together with three friends.
Come back next week to learn how to define the expectations of discipleship…